How to Work on Your Relationship. spk_1:   1:1:52yeah, but their But in that case, it’s possessing you. The shadow work is about reclaiming those parts that we’ve divorced from ourselves, rejected, abandoned um, and reclaim them and integrate them into our self so he could become were whole, um, But then the next level after the shadow is this wonderful energy that’s inside of us, called the anima or animus. So again we go deep into this work. And a lot of times, the shadow is not a direct like I have PTSD in my shadow, but there’s something similar, Like a fear. As they say. — Life Coach Training & Personal Transformation Experts. It’s just a projection of this unknown. And ah, a lot of times we fall in love with people that break her heart because we’re we break our own hearts, you know, where we break our hearts every day we beat ourselves up. It’s like a masculine force that she represses. I love that. When we talk about animus, remember, it’s a partnership with our conscious minds. If you had a choice, if you could wave a magic wand and there be a wonderful, loving ideal person, would you say no to that? spk_0:   30:08minutes, a release of emotion because the inhibited the the ego doesn’t inhibit the motion and so they can be passionate and let it go. The only reality is actually that now, because if you think well, I’m thinking about the past. But if you find that kind of, how do we work together? It’s not about just thinking positive and putting a vision board up in hoping love comes its’s. Yeah, we’re going on rejected. They can actually lose it. But I felt like it was the same force of me wanting to go toward the men that are unavailable. So we think that our mothers air being submissive. They’re templates there were born with them already until the opposite sex parent gives us a lot of information, and we associate the let’s say for a woman the father becomes like their first experience off the animals. The map of the soul. - … The guy from Thor, You know, Hemsworth there and He’s gorgeous and he’s, you know, rich and loving and kind and everything you’ve ever wanted and or whatever it may be, good looking isn’t important to you and and And Would you push it away if he if the you knew that you wouldn’t get heartbroken? So that’s where there’s like That’s why I think a lot of men do more crimes because they’re passionate and angry and, you know, they use the force in an emotional way. spk_0:   1:2:26out of control. spk_0:   36:39but we can exist transcending the ego. It’s a calling right life. We don’t want to get rid of it. And we do this instinctually remembers Children. It’s it’s part of our journey is to to work with relationships. You’re not going to be a threat if they’re always running away. spk_0:   18:22that’s way our first love is so precious. spk_0:   0:03Welcome to Creative Mind Living a podcast for personal growth based on the works of Carl Young, neuroscience and Eastern philosophies. Stage 2: Male as father God or King: She want’s his approval. Specifically, the anima is thought to be the feminine part of a man’s soul, and the animus refers to the masculine part of a female’s soul. And we first feel it when we have our first crush. spk_0:   1:8:29Sorry. Ah, and you know, some weekends were just like beating ourselves up. That’s loan? We have the unconscious patterns of emotional template that we’ve been given through our life, and then underneath that is this spiritually force of the anima or animus that is driving us to connect. Post was not sent - check your email addresses! spk_0:   40:08Well, she would have to work with her shadow. spk_1:   57:15be in her life. I’m focusing on my kids and there’s either an extreme like one level of Oh my God, I have to have it or I’m gonna, like, die tomorrow or I don’t need it at all. Stage 5: Male as a Partner: She wants him as an equal and opposite partner. And so that’s really what we’re trying to do is we’re trying to get make friends with this animus, but we really can’t get to it until you start doing shadow work. spk_0:   1:0:39How do you connect to the animus? And a coach who knows step coaching could really help a client instead of like, Oh, yeah, he’s a jerk. But But we have this desire for love that we can’t control. Are all those emotional defenses from letting someone in? Blame our partners, friends, colleagues and we will carry on being confronted with the same problem in the same relationship or in different relationships until we bring our inner masculine (animus) or inner feminine (anima) and our inner relationship to this part of ourselves into the light. And the things that we reject that we say, Oh, you know, that hurt my feelings or or they ignored me. I mean, initial. What’s the new one that everyone likes? It’s right here in this moment. Jung called the Animus the archetype of meaning and the Anima the archetype of life. Understand how your personal history influences your Anima or Animus and how you can transform your relationships to create a more conscious bond and attraction. It’s already got its agenda, but the way it plays out is often associated with the father. It’s like, Let’s have a relationship because then that if every everyone gets along Ah, and someone’s in charge, you can start to move in whatever you’ll get along. She posted it three times, So I guess she wants to stay answers. In Jungian psychology, the anima is a man’s internal other, the animus is the woman’s internal other. So they’re all female initially. We all have a mixture of late and or qualities, and it’s how accepting we are of that is Ah, and it’s hard to accept. spk_1:   25:32Yeah, because it kind of brings a lot of stuff up. The outcome need not always be negative, since the two are equally likely to fall in love (a special instance of love at first sight).”. Touch it because it’s like a week I think of it is in a weakening in awakening the anima animus with me fall in love. And Ah, for some women, it’s riding that force. And the only way to do that is to do your shadow work before you get into our relationship. Then the unconscious takes the opposite roll the things. We are often told that happiness and love resides within, but rarely do we find it. And we have a great group already. Whatever the we didn’t like. And so the other layer is well, if it’s inside of me already, have it eso if you don’t need anybody well, it’s not that I don’t need anyone, but now I want to find someone on a conscious level that I choose to connect with this within it. Not they’re not. The way we are raised and nurtured in childhood, informs how we communicate and relate to others, throughout our lives. It’s my dad’s issues, but really it was me rejecting the mother, the mother that caused the whole process of me being single toes in my forties and running away from all the nice guys just because I didn’t want to be trapped even though consciously, I thought I wanted to be a wife and I wanted Children, and I went in that role. But letting go of all that childhood, uh, attachment that we had, spk_0:   51:37someone with PTSD has fallen in love with me. spk_0:   32:15egos terrified of real love, because it loses because you lose yourself with someone that is a battle inside, saying Hold back, give up too much, right? So there’s a difference between transforming the ego and transcending the ego. It has a, you know, kind of ah ah will of its own in a way. We talked about this on our last podcast about the spiritual journey in love. I mean, this is simple example, but we see that often the stay at home mother Ah, the daughter may reject that because she wants to be an independent woman and go and have a career. Nor that infatuation is We think the other person is divine and it’s a misperception, and we fall into that shiny little beautiful ah you know, image of that person and their their bright and wonderful and and then eventually they let us down there. And so the surrender of the ego is where a lot of people get caught up right? Below are the five levels of Anima and Animus in men and women. We seek archetypes in our partner that will balance our suppressed masculine or feminine. Stage 1: Male as Alien outsider: She fears, hates and is strangely attached to him. spk_1:   1:6:32Yeah, this is a common stake. And so we have all that judgment in us, right? He’ll show up in people you know, other people. And that is such a huge burden to put on someone else to say you are in charge of making me feel OK about myself and when we don’t like it when it’s put on us. You’re in good hands, spk_1:   1:13:18Thanks for the great questions. So they had a couple of things as faras attraction, which is really where, where the story begins of love, they said, There’s there’s a couple elements of love that they called Lutece and Arrows. - Incompatible love languages or unawareness of differing personality types. We’re just easing. Or that might be a theme of Ah ah, infidelity. (Thus, Stage 1 for the male archetype will often be coupled with Stage 1 for women.) We’ll try toe, go around it, it will justify. It’s the same thing with the with their ego. All animals work on the same principle. Light and shadow is built into our individual psyche, and it takes the form of whatever we’re expressing in our conscious life as male or female. We’re just seeing it’s part of having our psyche is alive. It’s not gonna change. The information listed below is the most fascinating and comes from the book “Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men” by Martin Ucik. And you look for a man who’s like If you adored your father, you know, you may look for a man just like him, but then the things of the opposite you may end up seeing in them, too, because there’s no one is no person has all perfect qualities and traits. That’s no problem. So she rejects the state home mother and all that it entails. I had love of a soul level, which I lost something like a death of a beloved one and have never been able to find anyone like this. And the other woman who’s rejecting it is sitting on that force. 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